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Sunday, December 01, 2013

建立自我,追求無我

江湖浪裏,翻滾的是人

刀頭舐血,鮮紅的是心

算你拳頭至大,難蓋底裏靈魂

風起雲湧大江去,那怕留下我孤身

有時候,天上的不一定都是神

有時候,人間的不一定都是人

狂風暴雨,戾氣紛紛

大浪淘沙,留下真金

全世界都說,你是一個真正的完人

全世界都說,你欠缺仰望穹蒼的野心

堂堂傲氣,氣如江山

挺起脊樑,撐起乾坤

Monday, March 04, 2013

很想妳••••••••••••••




我渴望能見你一面,
但請你記得,我不會開口要求要見你。
這不是因為驕傲,你知道我在你面前毫無驕傲可言,
而是因為,唯有你也想見我的時候,我們見面才有意義。

I’m so eager to see you again
but i wouldn’t ask to see you
not because i’m proud
in fact, in front of you
i cede all my pride
yet only if you asked to see me
our meeting would be meaningful to me

1950年 Simone de Beauvoir 西蒙‧波娃〈法國作家〉-越洋情書



很久沒有觸動人心弦的文字了
這段時間忽然發現自己好像乾涸了很久
最近一直想辦法把自己充氣填滿
或許
是因為日復一日的工作讓人停滯
也或許是過於安逸的感情讓人沒有波瀾而停滯
總之
感謝這段時間與我分享的每個人

這段看似癡情不已的文字
卻是西蒙波娃寫給所謂的外遇對象的文字
然而
說是外遇對象似乎又過於沉重
因為西蒙波娃和伴侶沙特之間本來就沒有婚姻的束縛
只是一對精神上的牽手
所以這樣一段饒富情感的文字
產生的背景確實讓人玩味

不過並不是要來討論西蒙波娃的情感
單就文字之美
這段文字深深打動了我
當然
很多人對於這段文字有著不同的看法
我看到有人批判西蒙波娃的女權主義
批判所謂的不主動去見人家就是她的驕傲
當然角度不同看到的事實就會不一樣
我也不想陷入女權的辨證

坦白說
我只是深深的體會到
西蒙波娃寫下這段文字時
她內心的掙扎與無力
還有透露出她想保持一點自尊的心境吧
我跟她不熟
但是在這些文字上
我和她有所共鳴

你們呢?
是否也有過類似的掙扎?

Monday, September 10, 2012

幸福

草原上有對獅子母子。小獅子問母獅子:媽,幸福在哪裡?母獅子說:幸福就在你的尾巴上。”­於是小獅子不斷追著尾巴跑,但始終咬不到。母獅子笑道:傻瓜!幸福不是這樣得到的!只要你昂首向前走,幸福就會一直跟隨著你! ­

執子之手,舆子偕老

他向她求婚時,只說了三個字:相信我;­

她為他生下第一個孩子的時候,他對她說:辛苦了;­
女兒出嫁那天,他摟著她的肩說:還有我;­
他收到她病危的那天,重複的對她說:我在這;­
她要走的那一刻,他親吻她的額頭輕聲說:你等我
­
這一生,他沒有對他說過一次我愛你,但愛,從未離開過。
­

Thursday, February 16, 2012

我爱你年轻时候的容颜,但我更爱你被岁月摧残过后皱痕累累的脸

Wednesday, November 02, 2011

< 人的一生會遇上的四個人 >

人生就是為了找尋愛的過程,

每個人的人生都要找到四個人




第一個是自己,

第二個是你最愛的人,

第三個是最愛你的人,

第四個是共度一生的人。



首先會遇到你最愛的人,然後體會到愛的感覺;

因為了解被愛的感覺,所以才能發現最愛你的人;

當你經歷過愛人與被愛,學會了愛,才會知道什麼是你需要的,

也才會找到最適合你,能夠相處一輩子的人。

但很悲哀的,在現實生活中,這三個人通常不是同一個人;

你最愛的,往往沒有選擇你;

最愛你的,往往不是你最愛的;

而最長久的,偏偏不是你最愛也不是最愛你的,

只是在最適合的時間出現的那個人。

你,會是別人生命中的第幾個人呢?


沒有人是故意要變心的,他愛你的時候是真的愛你,

可是他不愛你的時候也是真的不愛你了,

他愛你的時候沒有辦法假裝不愛你;

同樣的,他不愛你的時候也沒有辦法假裝愛你 。

當一個人不愛你要離開你,

你要問自己還愛不愛他,

如果你也不愛他了,千萬別為了可憐的自尊而不肯離開;

如果你還愛他,你應該會希望他過得幸福快樂,

希望他跟真正愛的人在一起,絕不會阻止,

你要是阻止他得到真正的幸福,就表示你已經不愛他了,

而如果你不愛他,你又有什麼資格指責他變心呢?


愛不是佔有,

你喜歡月亮,不可能把月亮拿下來放在臉盆裡,

但月亮的光芒仍可照進你的房間。

換句話說,你愛一個人,也可以用另一種方式擁有,

讓愛人成為生命裡的永恆回憶,

如果你真愛一個人,就要愛他原來的樣子─愛他的好,也愛他的壞:

愛他的優點,也愛他的缺點,

絕不能因為愛他,就希望他變成自己所希望的樣子,

萬一變不成就不愛他了。


真正愛一個人是無法說出原因的,

你只知道無論何時何地、心情好壞,你都希望這個人陪著你;

真正的感情是兩人能在最艱苦中相守,也就是沒有絲毫要求。

畢竟,感情必須付出,而不是只想獲得;

分開是一種必然的考驗,

如果你們感情不夠穩固,只好認輸,

真愛是不會變成怨恨的。


兩人在談情說愛的時候,

最喜歡叫對方發誓,許下承諾

我們為什麼要對方發誓,

就是因為我們不相信對方,我們根本不相信情人,

而這些山盟海誓又很不切實際:

海枯石爛、地老天荒,都不能改變我對你的愛!

明知道海不會枯、石不會爛、地不會老、天不會荒;

就算會,也活不到那時候。

許下諾言的時候千萬注意,不要許下可以實現的諾言,

最好是承諾做不到的事,

反正做不到的,隨便說說也不要緊,

請記住:”不可能實現的諾言最動人”

在愛情裡,說的是一套,做的是另一套;

講的人不相信,聽的人也不相信。


你呢?找到了第幾個?

茫茫人海中,你遇見了誰?誰又遇見了你?


引用網路文章和川普搭網 ...




----------我是分格線----------

看完這篇文章

我想到了很多很多事

的確

愛不能強迫

愛不能隨便

愛是要相信

愛是要考驗

這些 . . . . . .

可以在愛情或是感情上

得到很多的思考

這篇雖然不是我寫的

但我很喜歡這篇文章

似乎

真正寫到我的骨子裡了 !

Monday, August 22, 2011

Different layer of thinking


There was a couple,after eleven years marriage,having the first child.This couple love each other more than before.Naturally,the child is the treasure of both. One day, the child at the age of two,when the husband going out,he saw there was a bottle of medicine which was opened on the table.Because he was in a rush,he shouted to his wife to take the opened medicine away,then he rushed going to work.At that time,his wife so busy working in the kitchen,then she forgpot what her husband told her to do.
Their child picked up the medicine bottle and feel so curious because the drug medicine was so colorful and attractive.Then the child drank the whole bottle of medicine.The medicine was so strong,even the adult can just drink a little bit only.Certainly,the child was overdose.The mom sent her child to hospital at once.However,there was no way to bring him back.The woman was so scared that her child was passing away.She don't know how to face her husband.When the nervous dad arriving the hospital,he was so upset to know this bad news.After staring his child's body, and then taking a glance on his wife,he said four words.
Guess what the husband said.....................................................??????

Answer: {I Love You Darling}
This reponse was so proactive {It means recontrolling the situation instead of controlling by the situation)
This husband is the genius of human relationship because the death of his son was the fact , even though they still continue blaming each other. It just aroused more heart breaking.Moreover,he 's not only losing his child ,his wife also losing a son too.
From this story,the theme is to expose the layers of human choice.The same tragedy,you can blame on someone or blaming yourself for good.However,the fact won't be change,It just change you and your coming life, carrying all the hurting feeling into your whole life. Vice Versa,puting down your hate,scare ,anger and your past.Bravely to face the future,the situation won't be bad like what you think.
Very simple story,but,how many people can act like this.When I heard the statement "I Love You Darling",I have a heavy feeling.This simple statement,but you need to have how long to train yourself,how big the capacity to accept people's mistake,how deep the human wisdom you have????Then you can say this powerful statement at this momment.Everyone have a sad matter that don't want anyone to know.What kind of method you choose to deal with it and how you deal with the future and the people around you.I want to share my feeling and blessing all my friend having smooth and happy forever.
1.When you came across your ture love,you need to do your best to take this opportunity to go with him.
Beause when he left,no way you can get it back.
2.When you came across your trustful friend,you need to get along with him peacefully,
Because he 's so hard to get a true friend in one's life.
3.When you came across someone helping you,you need to appreciate them,
Because they are your turning point in your life,
4.When you came across with someone you love before,you have to smile and be grateful
Because they make you to understand more about love.
5.When you came across with someone you hate,you have to smile and greet them
Because they make you more stronger.
6.When you came across with someone betray you,you have to chat with them,
Because ,if not him,you wont' understand the world today.
7.When you came across with someone you like,you have to praise for them
Because you like him, you must wish him happy all the time.
8.When you came across someone you know passing away,you have to thank them with you in your life
Because they were part of your wonderful memories.
9.When you came across someone that had misunderstanding before,you have to clear the misunderstand
Because you probably have that only chance to clarify yourself.
10.When you came acoss with someone that was your life partner now,you have to appreciate the way he love you.
Because you both have happiness and true love.

Wednesday, May 11, 2011

one of my businesses